Your child’s play is not simply a reproduction of what he has experienced or what he has gone through, but a creative reworking of the impressions he has acquired. The more risks you allow your child to take, the better they learn to look after themselves.
One of the best gifts you can give your child is the ability to play on their own. Instead of worrying about whether we should give our child gold stars for participating in any work or gold stars for being the best child, We have to involve our child in real-world activities where the result is itself a reward to him!
Play is far more powerful for children, however, than many parents realize. It’s the key to learning. Researchers and educators across the world have found that play can help enrich learning and develop key skills such as inquiry, expression, experimentation, and teamwork.
Problem-solving and decision-making skills are stalled when there’s always someone to think for them. Imagination and creativity aren’t relied on when games are always made up by someone else! By now you probably know why it’s important that children play on their own every day. If your kids aren’t used to playing on their own then there will be some adjustment.
Our society has completely lost sight of what’s truly important in life. It’s time to find it again.
Tips to help your child learn to play by themselves
Giving children choices helps them feel like they have some power and control over what they do, and is a step in growing up. Everyone likes to have choices in the things they do. Some child care providers think they need to do all the planning. They forget that children need choices. Some children will just go along with whatever an adult tells them to do. Others will become angry because they aren’t given the chance to choose for themselves. Giving children choices helps them feel like they have some power and control over what they do. It’s a step in growing up.
The more choices your child gets to make while living under your roof the better off they are.
Give your child attention
Everyone at every age needs attention! It feels good when someone focuses his or her full attention on you. Being attentive also feels good for your infant or toddler (and older children). For children, getting attention is even more important than for adults. Children need attention to grow, develop self-esteem and a positive sense of identity, and to flourish and succeed. There’s even research showing that parental attentiveness has a connection to releasing children’s growth hormones.
Don’t jump to accommodate every request
If my child has plenty of things to play with, I’m probably not going to stop what I’m doing to retrieve another toy he wants. This helps him focus on what he’s got instead of thinking of 50 other things he thinks he wants to play with.
Location, Location, Location
The location is not important as long as there’s something for the child to do and some type of boundary in place.
It’s not independent play if they roam around the house and you have to follow them to be sure they aren’t getting into trouble.
Be consistent with independent play and give it time
Independent playtime is something that works best with consistency.
Choose a time that works best and try to have playtime during that time each day so the kids know what to expect.
Knowing what to expect is a huge thing for children, and they are much more likely to participate without a fight if they see it coming.
Start with 5 minutes, 10 minutes, and then work up to 30 minutes or an hour as the child can do so and enjoys it.